Wednesday, October 10, 2007
perspective part 2
Nick called this morning. He is feeling depressed and guilty. Depressed because he drove through miles and miles of abject poverty, and guilty because we had no idea Johnley's birth mother came to visit him still. He was slammed in the face with the sacrifice she is making, and has to make, just because she had the bad fortune of being born in Haiti. We can afford another child, hell we could probably afford 10 more, just because we had the good fortune of being born in America. Not only in America, but born white in America. We did nothing to deserve this, and neither did she....
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To my dearest friend,
I know you are going nuts getting ready for the arrival of your new son. Please remember one very important thing. Johnley only needs you, Nick and the kids. He doesn't need a spotless home. He doesn't need his dresser packed perfectly or all his new toys lined up, or all the laundry done and put away. All he needs is to feel the love coming from all four of you. Oh great, now I am crying. Gotta go. I love you.
Love Sue.
Ever since I read "Perspective" I have been thinking about it and wondering how I would feel in your situation. The fact that they did not inform you ahead of time really put him in a bad situation to be there and be faced with this problem in such a blind-sided way, such an "in your face" kind of way.
At least Johnley will not grow up with this horrendous poverty and you can stay in touch with his mother, if that's what you choose to do. Take many, many deep breaths! There is little joy in growing up in an orphanage and seeing your mother only once a month. There will be lots of joy growing up with Sammy & Taishauna, being loved daily & being cared for.
Pam,
I agree with Pam, I think she worded this perfectly. What joy would Johnley have in growing up in an orphanage. He would miss have a full time mom, dad and a brother and sister.
Love,
Megan
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